Being a mom isn’t easy. Your constantly faced with decision after decision usually with no breaks and often operating on little sleep. Even if your kids are good sleepers, you may find yourself staying awake later or getting up earlier just to have some “me time”.
Being a mom is a 24/7 job, 365 days a year. It’s the hardest job you’ll ever have, but also the most rewarding.
That’s why, for so many moms, being part of a strong church community isn’t just helpful — it’s life-giving.
Here’s why every mom needs a good church community — and some practical steps to help you find yours.
1. Because you were never meant to do this alone
God designed us for community. Since the beginning of time, we’ve seen the early church meeting together, breaking bread, praying, and sharing life. Motherhood isn’t meant to be an isolated journey. A healthy church community offers friendship, prayer support, shared wisdom, and a safe space to be honest about your struggles. I know a lot of us tend to to apply the saying, “show me your friends and I’ll show you your future” to our kids, but it applies to us moms, too.
2. Because spiritual growth matters — even (and especially) in the busy seasons
It’s easy to let your faith drift to the background when you’re in over your head in motherhood. In the early days, you may be overwhelmed with breastfeeding or nap schedules or endless diaper changes. And it never seems to stop as they grow. But having a church home helps you keep your spiritual life nourished. Being part of a church means you hear God’s Word regularly, have people to pray with you, and keep your heart anchored when life gets chaotic.
3. Because your kids need to see faith lived out in community
You’ve probably heard the saying, “do as I say, not as I do before.” Well guess what? Kids learn by watching. When they see you worship, serve, and build relationships within your church family, it becomes part of what’s “normal” for them. Church isn’t just a place you go on Sunday; it’s a family your children can belong to, too. They have to see it in action. It can’t just be something you talk about. My oldest now helps us when we are holding the doors open at church when people are coming and going. My younger two see us serving in the nursery. It is important that they witness us doing the things that we tell them matter.
4. Because you need practical help sometimes
When we had our third, the church meal train was our saving grace. It gave us time to adjust and gave others the opportunity to serve. From meal trains after having a baby to trusted childcare during Bible study, church communities can step in and be the hands and feet of Jesus when you need it most. That practical help can make the difference between surviving and thriving in motherhood and so many church members are willing to help, if you just ask.
How to find your church community
Maybe you’re new in town, or maybe you’ve never really felt connected at your current church. Here are a few ways to start:
✅ Pray for guidance. As with anything, ask God. Tell him to lead you to a church where your family can grow, serve, and belong. We almost didn’t attend our church because we thought it might be too big, but he led us there one Sunday and it was everything we didn’t know we needed.
✅ Visit a few different churches. Don’t be afraid to try more than one. You may not find your fit the first time, but don’t give up.
✅ Look for family ministries and small groups. This one was hard for me. When I first started to going to church on my own, I didn’t want what I thought would be nosy church people in my business. It took me years to get over that until I decided to show up at women’s ministry one day and it changed my life. Groups like these can be especially helpful for building relationships with other moms in similar life stages.
✅ Don’t stop at Sunday morning. The best way to really connect is to get involved — join a Bible study, volunteer in children’s ministry, or attend mom meetups. We do all of these things at our church and it is great. We’ve gotten so connected and have built an incredible community. Church is actually where we’ve found most of our friends because of these things.
✅ Be patient — and brave. It can take time to build real relationships, and it might mean stepping out of your comfort zone. But it’s worth it. It took us about a year to get really plugged in, but now I can confidently say that we have a whole host of people that I call friends at church.
You’re not alone, mama.
A good church community won’t guarantee motherhood won’t be hard — but it will remind you daily that God is with you, and so are His people.
If you’re still searching, keep going. Your people — and His perfect timing — are worth the wait.
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